Focus On the Good: How to Step By Step
I hope you’ll excuse my absence. I’ve been in the throes of depression and, in that space, I didn’t have much to share. As I am actively working on digging myself out of my hole, I want to share ways I’ve been learning to focus on the good in my every day, sometimes mundane, life.
Focus On the Good
Change your perspective
Let’s turn the beat around! Our mind tends to immediately dwell on the negative. We can actively work against that and look for the good, even on the gloomiest of days.
Ask yourself questions like:
- What is something good happening in my life?
- Is there something I can do to make me smile or laugh?
- What can I control right now?
Change how you respond
Instead of getting angry at something small, choose to look at it better. I was mad that someone had stolen my credit card and I couldn’t use it for a while. I started to look at it differently, and felt that it was a good thing, because it made me hustle to make some extra cash while I waited for my new card.
Look for ways that things are working out
Maybe it’s as simple as, my car is working today or I made a delicious meal that everyone loved or someone complimented me on my work ethic.
Write down the little things that were good today
I’ll give you my list:
- I connected with someone and had an amazing conversation
- Reached my financial goals for the week!!
- Checked off something on my to-do list that has been there for months
Go on a thank you rampage
I heard this on a podcast recently. Start with the simplest of things like “Thank you for the sun.” You continue to say thank you for anything and everything. Try it out for a few minutes. As you start getting into it, you start realizing how much you do have. You know what they say, “a grateful heart is a magnet for miracles.” The more you are thankful for what you have, the more good you can receive!
Every time something good happens, celebrate
Even if it’s checking off an item on your to-do list, or getting paid, or buying an ice cream cone. Celebrate! We get so serious in our pursuits, that we forget to stop and celebrate every little victory, or even just the fact that we made it through the day!
Give grace to yourself
I’ve gained weight, and that’s not usually very fun to come to terms with. But I’ve been giving myself grace, and permission to be here in this moment, with some extra love on my body. I’m giving my curvaceousness its spotlight, instead of hiding under large t-shirts and baggy pants.
For the days I feel like I’ve failed, I remind myself of the strength I am gaining through healing.
Floral Top : Lovestitch
Jeans: Forever 21
Hoops: Forever 21
How do you focus on the good?